Love and Break ups!

 Love.. A simple four letter word yet has emotions like a roller coaster rides.

We are all born out of love. Its an feel, an emotion. Unfortunately, its been misused by many in this world.

We get attracted to others and term it as Love.. create a bond/relation. Very few take it through out their life time. But, many fall out of such relation. Its mainly due to ego, attitude, compromise, sacrifice, so many other reasons. They tend to forget that a relation is built on trust, compromise, understanding. No one is perfect in this world.. Not even God for that matter. If HE was perfect, there would have been no difference in HIS creation. Thats what its all about. IMPERFECT LIFE yet we have to learn to be happy and enjoy the journey.

When there are differences, one tends to give up. Thats what is breaking up of a relation happens. It gives such a pain. We feel that everything has ended... life has no meaning. Pairon ke tale zameen kisak sa gaya.. means the world under your feet is just taken off. Yeah.. its understood that theres a lot of emotions that the 2 give each other and when it ends, emotions are shattered. This happens for many unknown reasons, which is very unfortunate. Rather, being immatured or selfish! Some people just play with others emotions..

How to come out of it....

That takes a hell of time. The memories are worst which cant be erased. Our Mind is our enemy which keeps playing all the past and keeps hurting. But.... We can overcome this also. Nothing is impossible if WE have a strong Mind and a Strong Will to do so. 

How can a person stir out all your emotions and just throw you as a garbage? That means you never mattered to them. It was just a phase they wanted to be with you. Such kind of people cant stick to one person for a lifetime and they have confused mind.. They dont know to value what they have!

Just think of the person who loves you the most.. who is always there for you at every moment.. Who guides, thinks, fights and never ever leaves come what it is!.. No No.. not ur parents, not ur friends, not ur siblings.. NO..! You will find that person in the mirror.. Yes...its none other than Your OWN SELF!

We live life for ourself first for many years. Then when any relation happens, we tend to give away part of ours. Thats being in Love. It shoud be in both ways. If someone cant do it for you and leave you in the middle.. Trust me. they dont deserve to be in your life. Cry and brood over such person for a while but not for a lifetime. They are not worth your precious time. 

Always believe in yourself. There is so much in this universe to be grateful for and so much to learn that one lifetime is never enough. In which case, think.. does brooding over 1 person in this whole universe worth your time???  Thinking about past getting into depression and spoiling your health for someone who left you like a trash... Think about it! Its totally useless! 

Time is the best healer. Give yourself the time, divert your mind. Do things which you love.do things which you have never done before also. Learn new things.. Travel to new places, meet new people. Every person is a story. But promise yourself that YOU will NEVER go back to that past which hurt you. Sometimes, the person who broke off with you, tend to come back realizing what they miss. But it would be only for a phase. They will again leave you no matter what. 

The more chance you give someone, the less respect they will have for you. They will ignore the standards that your have set coz they will know another chance will be given. They are not afraid to lose you as they know no matter what, you wont walk away. They get comfortable with depending on your forgiveness. So, NEVER let any person get comfortable disrespecting you. 

Clear off, Wake up to a new life and start building new memories. Enjoy and live every moment! 

Let the Love in You.. Be Pure!!! 

Have a peaceful, happy n healthy life ahead!! 

Cheers!

Keep to yourself!

 Gone are those days when genuinely people used to feel happy for others. The social media has created lots of negativity in our minds. We see others life and judge as per our thoughts. We never see the facts of their life, their struggles. What we see is only the happy, smiling faces.. enjoying their life. And we conclude saying things we should not..like.., They have no worries, no responsibilities, they are FREE to do what they want, full freedom, etc etc and etc.

Every person has ups and downs of life. When we struggle, none will come forward to even console us nor feel Jealous about our situation.. because they know, they dont want to suffer.

But, when we are happy and enjoy some moments in life, they come forward, shamelessly say they feel jealous about our life. The world has become like that..

Thats why, with the current social media where genuine people want to casually post their pics of those moments, becomes a hurtful moment with others comments. 

Oh yeah.. we all know.. kuch tho log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna.. but for how many more years?? Theres no limit to people saying? 

Thats why its better to keep all the good news and happy moments to ourselves for our own peace in life. Why give others a chance to hurt our feelings...

None is genuinely happy for YOU... bitter truth of life!!!

Wake up and stop sharing your life to others.. so NONE CARES!!!! 

Stay Safe, Stay healthy and Stay Happy!!!

Social Media world is FAKE

Social media, where one can say anything to anyone. One is not bothered if their words inspire or hurt the other. Where love is faked and jealous is at peak. People are liked if they suffer and not if they are happy. Heartless world it has become. Judged on the pictures that are posted. Limits are crossed on comment boxes. Politics plays a lot in minds. Bonds are destroyed. Lust is found more than love. Friendships are on give and take policy. Huhhhh is this why social media is created??? 

Even if one leave the media be it facebook or whatsapp group, they take it as insult. May be the person wants a break from the gossips, tired from the fake bond. Let them take a break and live their Life. Whats the big deal! With this lockdown, seems only social media is the world. Everyone has their own life, their battles, their joy, their passion. 

Facebook is a place just to get likes, comments. But people are smart enough. Many only watch and never respond. Its complete entertainment channel like Netflix. None actually praises nor appreciates a true artist esp when known to them. Strangers posts are shared and appreciated. Why that much of EGO... 

Whatsapp .. another hell. There comes a group then sub group and sub sub group. And its full of forwarding posts and bitching. True bond is lost in all these things. 

Twitter.. is a garbage. Where people use filthy language and drag other to the worst possible place. So much of negativity.

Instagram.. posting pictures. Haaahhh everyone is a photographer now. so everyone enjoys!!

The main purpose of social media somewhere got lost. Connecting People..!

People are left confused and mad at each other now. Do anything, you are blamed for nothing. 

Oh God!! Give a break!! Set the mind and world back to No Media times! We were much connected then than now! 

Sushant RIP (Return If Possible)

WHY.. WHY... WHY ............................

Im not a fan of anyone esp in Bollywood. But have few likings for some actors. One of them IS Sushant Singh Rajput. I liked him since Pavitra Rishta. Had watched that serial only for him. 

14th July 2020, A shocking news that Sushant died of suicide. And its been 4days still am unable to believe that Sushant is no more. Though never known him personally nor was a crazy fan nor had followed him on any social media platform. Whenever his movie was released, used to watch only for him as he really is a good actor.

Then why this sadness inside me? Why am I not able to take this news. Never felt such a feeling for any actor or anyone when they left the world. Probably the only reason... 

I lost HOPE...

All my life i was thinking im a failure. Never succeeded in anything. Seeing others always felt very low. And tried and trying my best in all kinds of fields. Yet, just remained where Im still ..completely zero!!

But, when we see Sushant, he had none from this industry to recommend or uplift him. He struggled, worked hard and earned his name, fame etc. He even bought a land on moon. Imagine, what more can we say about success. He had everything and could get anything with a snap. But, he proved this wrong. Probably, we should get the Awareness that Success, Money, Name... nothing ACTUALLY matters. What actually matters at the end is HOW ONE LIVED THEIR LIFE!

And, Sushant being just 34yrs, lived his life. He had wrote his 50 dreams and he was ticking one by one with a big big smile.... 

We never will know what triggered him to take such a decision. But, he definetely is NOT a coward. Depression is such a hell that one really doesnt know what they are doing. Trust me, I had been in that hell for 6months and I wish no one, not even my worst enemy should undergo that situation.!!

All it takes is the courage to overcome that situation. When we are Happy, that phase disappears one day. Likewise, any sad phase will pass soon. Give Time the time to set things. Nothing is precious that our LIFE. 

Whoever is undergoing this depression, may you get all the strength and power to overcome. Just think about your family and loved ones before taking any steps! They suffer the most after you are gone. 

Oh Sushant RIP (Return If Possible)!!!!!! 

Be fearless

''I am Fearless" say this thing to yourself everyday, specially the moment when you feel like that you are getting weak, when somebody says you cant do that, when people make you feel like your dreams are crap, and especially when nothing goes right.

Keep telling this mantra yourself until you get a hold on your true self and you make yourself believe that there is nothing which can stop you. Look into the mirror, deep into your eyes, into your heart and tell yourself that you believe in YOURSELF.

This society is crazy, makes you believe in every stupid things, they try to influence you according to their experiences, basically they dont like rebellious people. 

So, tell yourself.. you are not here to become like the way They want, you are not here to settle, you have your own wings to experience, dont let anyone trap you.

Its OKAY if you have failed, if you have done mistakes in your life, if you have not really figured out still now what you really want to do in life,..... so many ifs continue... Never let anyone say that it is the end. Everyone advices based on their experience in life. Experience you life your way.. Great things always take time so does our hardships. 

Log kya sochenge....is old saying. New trend is....Log kya sochenge.. agar ye bi hum sochenge, tho log kya sochenge..unko apna kaam karne do ;) 

Love yourself first and do what your Heart says and celebrate your life.

Jiyo Bindas!

Smile. None cares abt you!

Many people think Love is full of joy, smile, romance but the bitter truth is Love is full of hurt, pain and cry. Pain is not always in tears, sometimes its also present in smiles. Dont ever cry for anyone. None actually cares. Start smiling and see everyone will start getting jeolous. Its always that grass is greener the other side. People will not know your side of story but judge you to their level best coz thats their thinking. Live your joy, pain and experience that feeling. Moving On sounds easy, but we die thousand times just to do it. But truth is it never happens.... Easy said than done. Smile and live your present fully come what may! Theres no other option than being strong! 

Bad phase in life

Sometimes or the other everyone has good and bad phases in life. When everything is going on good, we never bother about it. But when somethings go wrong, that is doesnt go according to our expectations, we feel its bad phase. What are the excuses we give during that time.. (you can mention in comments if you have some)

1. Everything happens for a reason

2. Just a cloudy phase, all will be fine when the clouds clear

3. Ups and downs is life

4. Didnt you knw, Dont be too happy..you would cry later

5. Evil eyes on you (Buri nazar)

etc etc

And when we undergo some situations, we do really feel these are true. But, does your happiness and life depends on what others think about you?? If you are happy and living life your way, people who are not living their life, will obviously say about you. Then where should we go.. what should we do.. I have really no clue!! All I feel is just ignore them and live your life, be it good or bad only you have to undergo those phases. None will come along to share esp if its not happy moment!

Ignorance is bliss. Live and Let Live!! 

Being FAKE

We have so many people coming in our daily life from childhood. Eveyone has a character by nature and with life we learn a lot of things through experience. People come into our life for a reason, for a season or a lifetime. Its how we bond with each other matters a lot. Bond depends on how we treat each other, how we respect each other. Few may say friendship can be informal and we can say whatever we like. But in that heat of the moment, we forget the other person is a HUMAN and they also do have FEELINGS. One should never cross a limit in whatever relation. Self respect is one thing every one has. If someone hurts it, then they will lose their value in any relation. 

Few of us feel we are truthful and others are FAKE. Even without knowing about that person or what all they would have undergone in life. But, if anyone says you FAKE and if it had hurt you in anyways.. Have this positive thinking....

F..Friendly

A..Adorable

K..Kiddish

E..Energetic

People who are truthful for themselves can make a negative compliment into positive. Coz we think positive and let only positive aura be with us.  In this kiddish doesn't mean immature, but means we have let our child in us alive. Only then we can ignore these negatives and move on in life.

Life doesn't end with such negative compliments. Just understand.. People who are not happy with themselves, portray their personality with such actions. Always keep in mind.. When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are. Never take it personally and disturb yourself.

Only when you are ahead of someone, you are successful, you are doing something that is appreciated.. you have jealousy people who cant tolerate that. And try to spoil your peace and happiness by vomiting their poison out. Be Aware with whom you are! Your cirlce matters a lot..

So next time, when someone degrades you, saying you are FAKE, be proud that you are ahead of them. Smile and say .. YES, IM Friendly, Adorable, Kiddish, Energetic (FAKE) and Im proud of it!!!! 

Keep going in life.. never give a damn to such people in life. Your time is precious than these negativity. Be your own self.. others opinions doesnt matter.

Always Think Positive and Make your life Beautiful!!

Old friends, now ends

Have you ever outgrown a friend or have a friend outgrown you? Like you were inseparable and then, there was a time gap and now you meet again and its like something leftover. Out of courtesy to the past, you try to reignite that togetherness but there is no kindling there to capture the flame.

In someway, I feel lucky not to have big list of close friends. At the most can just count on fingers how many close friends I have. Like we normally say, People come into our life for a season, reason or lifetime. Mostly its only for a season or reason. Lifetime friendship occurs very very rarely.

Nothing personal, but I and one of my friends were in touch all these years after schooling, though on and off as life took us. Suddenly she made a plan to visit Dubai and then to Hyd to meet friends and relatives. At first, it was really very exciting that she was coming to spend time and had planned where to go and what to do. When she arrived at the airport, we hugged and then first day went well with lots of talk about the old memories that we had. After that somewhere I started feeling that the attachment we had in school was not there. She had her stories and I had to just give her a shoulder.

When we went to Hyd, things slowly changed into different angle. We had planned for some trip and there i found that she had a reason for the trip. Hence, Friends for a REASON!!! As the days of our trip were ending, I was feeling out of place totally. And just felt when i would go back to my life. Somewhere could sense the same thing the other way too. And was damn sure that once we leave, it would be like thats it! And it so happened!!

You were actually friends because it was the present and the future had not yet occurred. It is just that the time, place, life has changed. When we were friends, we were very good friends, I never apologize for that. We shared experiences, problems, were there for each other, had laughed, cried, cared enough. That it expired on the shelf is just one of those things. The magic faded. It happens. But no need to lament the loss at the expense of the good times. No regrets for anything!

It so happened that after 26 yrs of schooling, could find out few classmates through social media. And as we know with the help of Whats-app, a group was formed. With enthusiasm and curiosity everyone chatted few days and found about others. Later had a reunion also. After that the feelings started to vanish slowly. One can say it may be due to ego or attitude about each other...(I felt so, no offense) Just for the sake of it, group still exists but none chats like before.

One more friend had come to Dubai, just for a day. But we had good time. Talking about many things, sharing old memories. Learnt that friendship spark clicks with few and not everyone.

Everyone seems matured but actually we are not. We neither are child like, being in present. Somethings keep bothering about someone but just cant say to them. Some back-stab for their selfishness that cannot be forgiven. Some have complex comparing others. In all these, friendship fades away.

Whatever happens, LIFE GOES ON.. with or without anyone! We have to live being ourselves and enjoy life as it goes!

Live the moment

The problem is we 'Always' wait something terrible to happen to Understand what Life is!! When we realise we have no time..be it for ourself or our known, we value everything on this universe...

Why.. Why should we wait???? What if next moment is not there?

Be crazy.. Be weird... Just do watever you want.. Never ever depend on others for YOUR OWN HAPPINESS... None will live your life as they have theirs...be it your spouse or friend... Be strong..Love and Be truthful to yourself that matters!!!!

Time is ticking.. Tick tock tick tock... It will never wait for anyone...

Live And Let Live❤️

#dilkibaat

Burst the bubble

Everyone of us have mind..right? And when mind is there, thoughts do happen. Thoughts.. its a train that keeps running n running until we control it. 

Thoughts..how powerful it is.. do we realize anytime? We have positive as well as negative thoughts. And there are such thoughts which are bubbles. Those are the expectations that we desire from others. We dont even know what the other person thinks but we keep building with bubbles. And suddenly some day it will definitely burst and all the expectations will lead to disappointment that only hurts terribly.

So to be at peace, dont create a bubble. Its not worth the time, energy. Instead create positive thinking that will motivate you to reach your goal.

Be Detached

There is not a single relation that is worth to be attached with. Every person has their own priorities and choices depending on the situation. It keeps changing everytime. Be it parent, friends, kids, siblings..any relation has its own limitations.

If you are attached to any relation, we expect something. And when it doesnt meet the need, we get disappointment.Learn to be detached and automatically there wont be any expectations. We will be at peace for sure. 

The Universe is so huge and when you compare yourself with it, you are nothing. Just a tiny soul.. Nothing is permanent in this temporary life.. Thats the only truth. Live your life,  expect less from others, dont be dependent on others.. by these, one can really live the present, every moment.

People come into our lives for a reason, a season but never for a lifetime.. Only you, yourself are here for the lifetime. Being honest kills too. Others take you for granted and use you for their selfish motive. Be aware with whom you are! Never ever trust fully on anyone. Be with the flow like water.. just keep going.

You are your own soulmate..

Choose someone who makes you love yourself when you lost every hope to love and be loved again.

Coz thats important, everyone comes to  you with a motive to get somthing from you. To kill their time, for lust or anything but theres hardly anyone who first makes you love yourself, fix you, give you all the love you deserve or you have craved for, and you hardly find such person, unfortunately!!!

Thats why you have to depend on yourself. Love yourself, pamper yourself. Only you can do it for your own Self. YOU ARE YOUR OWN SOULMATE!!

Think again... your soulmate is within you who accepts you, cares for you, loves you..exactly the way you want to!

Im a shabby person.. dont know how to dress up and most of the times feel worthless. I often felt that no one ever love a person like me. Im totally imperfect. Always wanted to fix myself but never found anyone who can do it for me. I rarely look myself in a mirror.. and have no idea of who im or what i want to be in life.

However, as life teaches us at every stage, I too got my own lessons and started living my own way. I dint know what my passion was. Hence, started venturing into everything that i came across. In that way, I became unique. coz i learnt everything that i had come across.. from blogging, youtubing, photography, cooking, mechanics, etc.. I have now become a jack of all trades but master of none.. But who cares!!!

I took a dip in spirituality, psychology too apart from travelling to various places and learning about the place and culture.Started trekking after my knee surgery. I felt happy and proud of myself for doing so many things, achieving the impossible things that i always thought.

Finally felt so beautiful, not outer way but the inner way! While i dont always feel like the best version of myself, when i dont feel like a strong, powerful, independent woman, I still know shes always there.My soul is indeed complete  and even in times when i feel lost. I knw I always have the strength within myself to find my way back again. I love the person i have become over the years.

So are you your own soulmate? I say yes, with my whole entire heart. Validation comes from within, confidence comes from within, and even love comes from within, a love for absolutely everything you are and will be. There will never be someone who understands you quite like you understand yourself, and so ultimately that’s all we really have to rely on. As scary as that might sound, I also think that’s something powerful - something beautiful.

I think the first step to finding love in all its forms is to love yourself, to value yourself, and to understand yourself exactly as you are. Find the people who love you for you, but remember that no one can determine your worth except yourself. Just because you’re not in love doesn’t mean you’re not someone worth loving, because ultimately, you are your own soulmate.

Some mixed thoughts..

Never talk about the faults of others, no matter how bad they may be. Nothing is ever gained by that. You never help one by talking about their fault; you do them an injury, and injure yourself as well.

Never hold your head high with pride or ego. Even the winner of a gold medal gets his medal only when he puts his head down. Think Twice....

A seed grows with no sound, but a tree falls with huge noise…

Destruction has noise, but creation is quiet. This is the power of silence. “Grow Silently”

At some point you will realize you have done too much for someone, that the only next possible step to do is to STOP. Leave them Alone. Walk Away.

Some people think that the truth can be hidden with a little cover-up and decoration. But as time goes by, what is true is revealed, and what is fake fades away.

Every person has a tolerance breaking point. No matter what they mean to you..they have a line..and if that line is crossed, believe me, nothing will ever come bck to normal. So care for them, respect them for whatever they are. And if you hv chosen to be with them, mean it! Never ever use and backstab a person who are honest!!

Sometimes when we are lost into some other world.. God shows a mirror reflection life..

If one can see that, we realise where we are and theres a chance to rectify ourselves..esp, if we are doing something wrong..

Life is unpredictable n it takes every possible way to teach us lessons!!!

Trust..

Every relationship is based on trust, its said. But the fact is theres nothing called trust. Its only a word. In this world, everyone uses another for some benefit. For that purpose the word Trust is used. Its just an emotional word where we get carried away and fall in as prey.

Never ever trust anyone.. Depend on ur own self and you will live in actual peace.

Koi kisi ka nahi hai iss duniya mein..
Bas sab mann aur sabdon ka maya hain..
Jab akhele aaye duniya mein tho
akhele jeena seek bi lo..
Aakhir khud ko khud hi se milna hai..
Baaki sab tho idar hi tho chordke jaana hain.

Thank u my god.. For every trip i mke in life you teach me abt life, people and clear the clouds... And make peace with the situation.